Monday, October 20, 2008

Sweet Kids

I have to once again post about my kids. For years now, I can easily see the things that I do wrong as a mother, mainly losing my patience with my kids, and it makes me so sad that I am so quick to get mad, snap at them, and repremand them for things they do wrong. I seriously struggle with patience.

Like I said, it is something I have struggled with for a long time and while I was in Utah this last weekend, I made the comment around my mother, that I thought I was a bad mom. A couple days later, she called me and repremanded me for thinking such a thing. We had a serious conversation about this and after a great deal of council, uplift, and tears, I got off the phone with her. Austin and Aubree had come into their room (which is where I was talking on the phone) and asked me why I was crying and I told them it was because I needed to be a better mommy. Aubree hugged me as tight as she could and told me that I was such a good mommy and Austin said, "You don't have to be a better mommy; just be the same mommy." I love my kids. They love me even though I have faults and that means everything to me.

But I have to say, that today I tried some suggestions my mom gave me and it made the most amazing difference. Not once today did I get mad, I looked at every situation from a loving standpoint and I couldn't believe that difference it made in Aubree! She was such a good girl today! She listened and obeyed almost everything I said. And the one time the kids did have a timeout today, I was very calm and collected about the whole situation. So today was a huge breakthrough for me and I owe it to my Mom, my kids, and Heavenly Father. I plan on doing the same thing tomorrow and the next day and the next day and the next until this becomes second nature to me because it is so worth it! Today I was the mom I have always wanted to be.


Shannon said...

Please tell me what it was your mother said. If you're impatient that I must be...well, I can't think of the word, but really, really bad. I need to work on that too, I've know that for a while now but nothing I do seems to work - for very long anyway. I'm glad you feel good about things, sometimes I think thats the biggest struggle.

Kasi said...

well you have to share what she said!!! And I think you are an absolutely amazing mother!!!!!!! I look at how sweet and polite and well behaved your kids are and how could you be anything but a great mom?

garrettandbritt said...

I also would love that advice your mom gave you. I am just glad there are others out there like me. I struggle with patients as well. You are a great mom I know it!!!

JC Photography said...

Yes you can't dangle the secret to being a good mom and not share with the group. I'd love to know your mom's suggestions. Sounds like it works amazingly. And I can guarantee you - you are your own worst critic. Your a great mom!